猎人和狗
My mother taught me a lesson by telling me a story when I was a youngster. Don’t be hasty，and weigh things carefully before you strike. When your blood pressure gets up，count to ten."School your feelings，oh，my brother"is one of the best bits of advice ever given. Think before you act.
小时候，母亲给我讲了一个故事，让我明白了一个道理：行动前，我们要仔细斟酌，不要草率行事。当你觉得血压上升、怒火中烧时，请从一数到十。"老兄，控制你的情绪！"这是给你最好的建议之一。三思而后行！
A hunter’s wife who lived in the Alaskan forest died suddenly. At this time their child was about two years old. When he went out hunting，the hunter had to leave the child for a few hours in the care of his faithful dog. On one afternoon when he was out hunting，a terrible snowstorm blew up. The storm was so terrible that he had to stay in a hollow tree to save his life. At daybreak，he rushed to his small house. The door was open. His dog which looked at him from the corner of his eyes was covered with blood. The father’s blood froze. Just one thing could have happened - his dog had turned wolf and had killed his child. He reached for his knife and buried it into the skull of his trusted animal.
在阿拉斯加的森林里生活着一个猎人和他的妻子。有一天，妻子突然去世了，留下刚刚两岁的孩子无人照顾。于是，猎人每次外出打猎时都不得不把孩子留在家里，由他忠实的爱犬负责照顾。一天下午，他正在打猎，一场可怕的暴风雪突然来临。暴风雪实在太大了，他只好躲在一棵空心的树里逃命。第二天，天亮后，猎人回到家发现门开着，他的狗浑身是血，斜眼看着它的主人。猎人顿时感到自己的血液都凝固了，他想可怕的事情发生了--这只狗一定是兽性大发，吃掉了他的孩子！他操起刀，狠狠砍向狗头。
Like a madman he looked at the scene. The broken furniture told a story of a battle that had taken place here an hour before. A faint cry came from under the bed. Again his heart seemed to jump out of his breast. There he found his son safe and sound. He took his dear son into his arms and wondered where the blood on his dog came from. The answer came a second later. In a corner，there was a dead wolf. His faithful dog had saved his son from the wolf.
他发疯了似的看着屋里的一切，破碎的家具似乎讲述着一小时之前这里发生的一场撕杀。这时，一声微弱的哭声从床下传来，他的心又一次提到了嗓子眼。在床下，猎人发现他的孩子安然无恙。他把心爱的孩子搂在怀里，他很奇怪，狗身上的血又是从哪儿来的呢？疑惑很快解开了，在一个角落里，猎人发现了一只狼的尸体--他的爱犬从狼口中救出了孩子。
A moment of caution was all that was needed and he could have held both his child and his hero dog in his arms. Remorse took over instead.
如果当时猎人冷静一点，现在他就能同时拥抱着他的孩子与爱犬了。但是，他太草率了，所以，留给他的只有悔恨。
90/10秘诀
The 90/10 secret is incredible！ Very few know and apply this secret. The result？ Millions of people are suffering undeserved stress，trials，problems，and heartache. They never seem to be successful in life. Bad days follow bad days. Terrible things seem to be constantly happening. Worry consumes time； anger breaks friendships； and life seems dreary and is not enjoyed to the fullest. Friends are lost. Life is a bore and often seems cruel. Does this describe you？
"90/10秘诀"简直让人难以置信，但是很少有人知道或使用过这个秘诀。结果呢？很多人都承受着本不该承受的压力、麻烦、困难和忧虑。他们的生活中似乎永远没有成功，糟糕的日子接踵而至，倒霉的事情没完没了。忧愁吞噬了时间，愤怒破坏了友谊，生活令人沮丧，他们根本无法尽情地享受生活。他们失去了朋友，生活变得索然无味，有时甚至变得残酷。你有同感吗？
If so，do not be discouraged. You can be different！ The 90/10 secret will change your life！ What is this secret？ Ten percent of life is made up of what happens to you. Ninety percent of life is decided by how you react.
如果你也有这样的经历，千万别气馁，你可以焕然一新。"90/10秘诀"将会改变你的生活！秘诀到底是什么呢？它就是：生活的百分之十由上天决定，百分之九十由你的反应决定。
What does this mean？ We really have no control over 10% of what happens to us. We cannot stop the car from breaking down. The plane may be late arriving，which throws our whole schedule off. A driver may cut us off in traffic. We have no control over this 10%.
这是什么意思？生活中有百分之十的事情我们无能为力，汽车抛锚、航班晚点都可以打乱了我们的安排，一个司机就能阻塞交通，这些事情都是我们无法控制的。
The other 90% is different. You determine the other 90%！ How？ By your reaction. You cannot control a red light，but you can control your reaction.
Don’t let people fool you； you can control how you react！
Let’s use an example.
You’re eating breakfast with your family. Your daughter knocks over a cup of coffee onto your business shirt. You have no control over what just happened. What happens next will be determined by how you react.
然而，另外的百分之九十则不同，我们可以决定它们。怎样决定？通过我们对事情做出的反应。你不能控制红灯，但你能控制自己的反应。
别让别人愚弄你，你能掌控自己的反应！
我们来看一个例子：
你正和家人共进早餐，突然你的女儿将一杯咖啡洒到了你的职业装上。对于刚刚发生的事情，你无能为力，但接下来将发生的事情取决于你的反应。
You curse.You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the coffee cup over. She breaks down in tears. After scolding her，you turn to your spouse and criticize her for placing the cup too close to the edge of the table. A short verbal battle follows.
你严厉地责骂你的女儿，她忍不住哭了起来。说完女儿，你又开始数说妻子，责怪她不该把杯子放在桌边上，接着，一场小口角开始了
You storm upstairs and change your shirt. Back downstairs you find your daughter has been too busy crying to finish breakfast and get ready for school. She misses the bus. Your spouse must leave immediately for work. You rush to the car and drive your daughter to school. Because you are late，you drive 40 miles an hour in a 30 mph speed limit zone.
你急匆匆地奔上楼，换完衣服，下来却发现女儿光顾着哭，早饭也没吃完，根本没做好上学的准备，班车也错过了。妻子得马上去上班，你只好开车送女儿上学。因为怕迟到，你在限速30英里/小时的区域里车速达到了40英里/小时。
After a 15 minute delay and throwing $60 (traffic fine) away，you arrive at school. Your daughter runs to the building without saying good bye. After arriving at the office 20 minutes late，you find you forgot your briefcase.
Your day has started terrible. As it continues，it seems to get worse and worse. You look forward to going home. When you arrive home，you find a small wedge in your relationship with your spouse and daughter.
Why？ Because of how you reacted in the morning.
你被警察逮到了，被罚款60美元，还耽搁了15分钟。到学校后，女儿"再见"都没说就冲进了教室。你走进办公室，迟到了20分钟，却发现忘带了公文包。
你的一天从一开始就倒霉，而且越来越糟。你盼着早点回家。可晚上回家后，却发现家里气氛尴尬，女儿和妻子与你有了隔阂。
为什么会这样？就因为你早晨的反应。
Why did you have a bad day？
A) The coffee caused it.
B) Your daughter caused it.
C) The policeman caused it.
D) You caused it.
The answer is D. You had no control over what happened with the coffee. How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day.
你的一天为什么如此糟糕？
A.是咖啡造成的。
B.是你女儿造成的。
C.是警察造成的。
D.是你自己造成的。
正确的答案是D。的确，咖啡洒到你身上是你无法控制的，但你在接下来5秒钟的反应导致了不愉快的一天。
Here is what could have and should have happened. Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry. You gently say，"It’s OK，honey，you just need to be more careful next time."Grabbing a towel you rush upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt and your briefcase. You come back down in time to look through the window and see your child getting on the bus. She turns and waves. You and your spouse kiss before you both go to work. You arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff. Your boss comments on how good of day you are having.
其实，结果完全可以是这样的，也应该是这样的：咖啡洒到了你身上，女儿见闯了祸吓得快哭了。这时，你轻轻地安慰她说："好了，宝贝，没事了，下次要小心一点呦！"你拿着毛巾奔上楼，换完衣服后，提着公文包下来。窗外女儿上了学校的班车，她正转身向你挥手告别。你和你的妻子吻别，各自上班。你提前5分钟到达办公室，愉快地和同事们打招呼，老板对你这一天的工作很满意。
Notice the difference？ Two different scenarios. Both started the same. Both ended different. Why？ Because of how you reacted. You really do not have any control over 10% of what happens. The other 90% is determined by your reaction.
Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 secret.
If someone says something negative about you，do not be a sponge. Let the attack roll off like water on glass. You do not have to let the negative comment affect you！ React properly and it will not ruin your day. A wrong reaction could result in losing a friend，being fired，getting stressed out，etc.
这是两种不同的结果，你意识到它们的区别了吗？同样的开始，却有不一样的结果。为什么呢？因为你的反应不同。生活的百分之十你无能为力；百分之九十却有你的反应决定。
下面就教教你怎样使用"90/10秘诀"：
如果有人说了你一些不好听的话，别像海绵一样把它吸进心里，把它们像玻璃上的水那样甩出去吧！不必要让这些不好的评价影响你，合理地做出回应，它就不会影响你的生活。错误的反应可能让你失去朋友，被炒鱿鱼，心力交瘁，等等。
How do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic？ Do you loose your temper？ Pound the steering wheel？ (A friend of mine had the steering wheel fall off！) Do you curse？ Does your blood pressure skyrocket？ Do you try and bump them？ Why let the blue car ruin your drive？ Remember the 90-10 principle，and do not worry about it！
如果有人堵在了你的车前面，你要怎么办？发脾气？砰砰地砸方向盘？（我的一个朋友曾经把方向盘砸掉了！）骂街？血压猛升？想去撞他？干吗要让那辆烂车影响你的驾驶呢？想想"90/10秘诀"，你就不会着急了！
You are told you lost your job. Why lose sleep or get irritated？ It will work out. Use your "worrying"energy and time into finding another job. The plane is late. It is going to mangle your schedule for the day. Why take out your frustration on the flight attendant？ She has no control over what is going on. Use your time to study，to get to know the other passengers，etc. Why get stressed out？ It will just make things worse.
You now know the 90/10 secret. Apply it and you will be amazed at the results！
老板告诉你你被炒了，干吗失眠或恼火呢？事情总是会解决的，用你着急的气力和时间去找另一份工作吧！飞机晚点，你的工作日程全被打乱了，你为什么拿空姐出气呢？她又不能控制飞机。利用这个时间学习或者认识一下其他的乘客。何必自寻烦恼呢？那只会让事情更糟。
现在，你已经知道了"90/10秘诀"。试试吧！结果会让你大吃一惊的！
成吉思汗与猎鹰
One morning Genghis Khan，the great king and warrior，rode out into the woods to have a day’s sport. Many of his friends were with him. They rode out gayly，carrying their bows and arrows. Behind them came the servants with the hounds.
It was a merry hunting party. The woods rang with their shouts and laughter. They expected to carry much game home in the evening.
成吉思汗是一代伟大的帝王，也是一个勇士。一天早上，他和他的朋友们骑马去树林里打猎，他们带着弓箭，兴高采烈地在林间驰骋，侍卫和猎犬跟随其后。
这是一个盛大的狩猎队伍，林间回荡着他们的呼喊声和欢笑声。他们希望打很多猎物，晚上满载而归。
On the king’s wrist sat his favorite hawk，for in those days hawks were trained to hunt. At a word from their masters they would fly high up into the air，and look around for prey. If they chanced to see a deer or a rabbit，they would swoop down upon it swift as any arrow.
All day long Genghis Khan and his huntsmen rode through the woods. But they did not find as much game as they expected.
成吉思汗最钟爱的猎鹰停在他的手腕上。在那个年代，人们训练鹰来狩猎。只要主人一声令下，它们就腾空而起，寻找猎物。当发现一只鹿或兔子时，它们就会像箭一样俯冲而下。
整整一天，成吉思汗和他的同伴们都在树林中穿梭，但收获并没有他们期望的多。
Toward evening they started for home. The king had often ridden through the woods，and he knew all the paths. So while the rest of the party took the nearest way，he went by a longer road through a valley between two mountains.
The day had been warm，and the king was very thirsty. His pet hawk left his wrist and flown away. It would be sure to find its way home.
The king rode slowly along. He had once seen a spring of clear water near this pathway. If he could only find it now！ But the hot days of summer had dried up all the mountain brooks.
傍晚的时候，他们准备打道回府。成吉思汗经常在这个树林里骑马，他熟悉所有的道路。于是，其余的人走最近的路，而他选了一条经过两山之间的山谷的远道。
天气很暖和，成吉思汗觉得非常口渴。他的猎鹰从他的手腕上飞起，它一定是去探路了。
成吉思汗骑着马，慢慢地向前走着。在这条路的附近，他曾经看见过一股清泉，如果现在能找到就好了，可是炎热的夏季使山里的小溪都干枯了。
At last，to his joy，he saw some water trickling down over the edge of a rock. He knew that there was a spring farther up. In the wet season，a swift stream of water always poured down here； but now it came only one drop at a time.
The king leaped from his horse. He took a little silver cup from his hunting bag. He held it so as to catch the slowly falling drops.
It took a long time to fill the cup； and the king was so thirsty that he could hardly wait. At last it was nearly full. He put the cup to his lips，and was about to drink.
最后，令他高兴的是，他看见有水从一块岩石的边缘滴下来，他知道上面一定有泉水。在多雨的季节，这儿总会有湍急的水流倾泻而下，现在，只有水珠不时滴下来。
他从马上跳下来，从狩猎的袋子里掏出一个小银杯去接慢慢滴下来的水珠。
水滴得很慢，接满一杯要很长时间，成吉思汗实在是太渴了，他迫不及待。终于，水快接满了，他把杯子送到嘴边，准备喝水。
All at once there was a whirring sound in the air，and the cup was knocked from his hands. The water was all spilled upon the ground.
The king looked up to see who had done this thing. It was his pet hawk.
The hawk flew back and forth a few times，and then alighted among the rocks by the spring.
The king picked up the cup，and again held it to catch the trickling drops.
This time he did not wait so long. When the cup was half full，he lifted it toward his mouth. But before it had touched his lips，the hawk swooped down again，and knocked it from his hands.
突然，空中传来"呼呼"的声音，水杯被撞翻了，水全都洒到了地上。
成吉思汗抬起头想看看这是谁干的好事！--他钟爱的猎鹰！
猎鹰来回飞了好几次，然后落在泉水旁的岩石里。
成吉思汗捡起杯子，再一次去接水。
这一次，他没有等那么久。水刚到半杯，他就把杯子送到嘴边，但水还未沾唇，猎鹰又一次俯冲而下，把杯子撞翻。
And now the king began to grow angry. He tried again，and for the third time the hawk kept him from drinking.
The king was now very angry indeed.
"How do you dare to act so？"he cried."If I had you in my hands，I would wring your neck！"
Then he filled his cup again. But before he tried to drink，he drew his sword.
"Now，Sir Hawk，"he said，"that is the last time."
He had hardly spoken before the hawk swooped down and knocked the cup from his hand. But the king was looking for this. With a quick sweep of the sword he struck the bird as it passed.
成吉思汗开始生气了，他再一次去接水，可是猎鹰还是不让他喝水。
成吉思汗非常气愤。
他大喊到："岂有此理？如果你落在我手上，我非得拧断你的脖子不可！"
接着他又去接水。在准备喝之前，他拔出了佩剑。
"听着，鹰大人，这可是最后一次了。"他说。
成吉思汗几乎还没说完，猎鹰就俯冲而下撞翻了杯子。这一次，他早有防备。当猎鹰飞过去时，他挥剑刺中了猎鹰。
The next moment the poor hawk lay bleeding and dying at its master’s feet.
"That is what you get for your pains，"said Genghis Khan.
But when he looked for his cup，he found that it had fallen between two rocks，where he could not reach it.
"At any rate，I will have a drink from that spring，"he said to himself.
With that he began to climb the steep bank to the place from which the water trickled. It was hard work，and the higher he climbed，the thirstier he became.
这只可怜的猎鹰倒在血泊里，死在了主人的脚下。
"这就是你的下场。"成吉思汗说。
他去找他的杯子，却发现杯子掉到了两块岩石之间他够不着的地方。
他自语道："无论如何我也要喝到泉水。"
说着，他就开始攀爬陡峭的石壁，向水的源头爬去。他艰难向上爬着，越爬越渴。
At last he reached the place. There indeed was a pool of water. But what was that lying in the pool，and almost filling it？ It was a huge，dead snake of the most poisonous kind.
The king stopped. He forgot his thirst. He thought only of the poor dead bird lying on the ground below him.
"The hawk saved my life！"he cried. "But how did I repay him？ He was my best friend，and I have killed him."
He clambered down the bank. He took the bird up gently，and laid it in his hunting bag. Then he mounted his horse and rode swiftly home. He said to himself，"I have learned a sad lesson today，and that is，never to do anything in anger."
终于，他爬到了目的地，那儿确实有一潭水，但一个大东西盘踞在整个水潭。那是什么？原来是一条巨大的毒蛇的尸体！
成吉思汗呆立在那里，他忘记了干渴，脑子里只有山下那只躺在地上的鹰。
"猎鹰救了我的命，"他哭喊道，"可我是怎样回报它的呢？它是我最好的朋友，我却杀了它。"
成吉思汗从石壁上爬了下来，轻轻地捧起猎鹰的尸体，放到狩猎袋里。然后，他骑上马，飞驰而去。他对自己说："今天我吸取了一个惨痛的教训：决不要在愤怒时采取行动。"
婆罗门辱骂佛陀
Lord Buddha was sitting under a banyan tree. One day，a furious Brahmin came to him and started abusing him.
The Brahmin thought that Buddha would reciprocate in the same manner，but to his utter surprise，there was not the slightest change in the expression on his face.
一天，佛陀正在菩提树下坐禅，一个婆罗门怒气冲冲地走过来辱骂他。
婆罗门心想佛陀一定会同样回击他，但大出他所料，佛陀脸上毫无怒色。
Now，the Brahmin became more furious. He hurled more and more abuses at Buddha. However，Buddha was completely unmoved. Actually there was a look of compassion on his face. Ultimately the Brahmin was tired of abusing him. He asked，"I have been abusing you like anything，but why are you not angry at all ？"
Lord Buddha calmly replied，"My dear brother，I have not accepted a single abuse from you."
"But you heard all of them，didn’t you？"The Brahmin argued.
于是，婆罗门越发生气，骂得也更加不堪入耳，可佛陀依然无动于衷，反而露出了同情的神色。最后，婆罗门骂累了，他问佛陀："我这样辱骂你，你为什么一点儿都不生气呢？"
佛陀平静地答道："施主，我并没有受到你的侮辱。"
"但是你听到了，对吗？"婆罗门争辩道。
Buddha said，"I do not need the abuses，so why should I even hear them？"
Now the Brahmin was even more puzzled. He could not understand the calm reply from Buddha.
Looking at his disturbed face，Buddha further explained，"All those abuses remain with you."
"It cannot be possible. I have hurled all of them at you，"the Brahmin persisted.
Buddha calmly repeated his reply，"But I have not accepted even a single abuse from you！ Dear brother，suppose you give some coins to somebody，and if he does not accept them，with whom will those coins remain？"
佛陀说："我不需要这些侮辱，那我为何还去听它们呢？"
婆罗门更是摸不着头脑，他不明白佛陀为何回答得这样平静。
看着困惑不解的婆罗门，佛主解释道："其实你是在自己辱骂自己。"
"这不可能，我明明是在辱骂你。"婆罗门说。
"但是我并没有接受你的侮辱，"佛陀又平静地重复了一遍刚才说的话，"施主，你想想，如果你把硬币给别人，别人却不要，最后硬币在谁手上？"
he Brahmin replied，"If I have given the coins and they’re not needed by someone，then naturally they would remain with me."
With a meaningful smile on his face，Buddha said，"Now you are right. The same has happened with your abuses. You came here and hurled abuses at me，but I have not accepted a single abuse from you. Hence，all those abuses remain with you only. So there is no reason to be angry with you."
The Brahmin remained speechless. He was ashamed of his behavior and begged for Buddha’s forgiveness.
Inner calmness and peace are keys to contented life.
婆罗门答道："当然是还在我手上。"
这时，佛陀意味深长地笑了笑说："回答正确。这与你辱骂我其实是自取其辱是一样的道理。你到这儿来辱骂我，但我并没有接受你的侮辱，因此，你的辱骂全都留给了你自己，所以我没必要生你的气。"
婆罗门无言以对，他羞愧难当，请求佛陀的宽恕。
内心的平静与安宁是开启幸福生活的钥匙。
内心怒火
Anger of the heart causes us great injury. Hurt feelings，harsh words，nasty misunderstandings leave deep imprints in our minds and hearts. We dwell on the cruel and unkind violations against us. Letting go of anger about things that have occurred in the past is difficult. We get stuck and hold on to our anger，and the wounds grow deeper and fester. The pain keeps us from finding peace within ourselves. When is it time to let go？
内心的愤怒给我们造成巨大的伤害。受伤的感情、刻薄的言语和恶意的误解在我们的内心留下深深的伤痕。我们无法忘记那些伤害过我们的残酷的、恶意的事情。摆脱过去的愤怒很难。
It is time to let go when holding on to the anger no longer serves us. When carrying the burden of our anger keeps us from moving in the direction of our ideals. When the anger keeps us from growing and becoming the person we seek to be. How do we begin？
We begin by letting go. Just letting go. We begin by no longer allowing ourselves to dwell on the negative and relive the injustices. We focus on recovering from the injury. We recover by surrounding ourselves with loved ones we can trust and by moving on. Forgiveness comes much later.
执着内心的愤怒于我们无益，我们应该学会放下。当内心的愤怒变成一种负担，阻碍我们向自己理想的方向前进，阻碍我们的成长，使我们无法实现理想人格时，我们该怎么办？
我们应该学着放下，只管放下。不要再想着那些消极的事情或回味不公正的待遇，应该集中精力从伤痛中恢复过来。和那些我们所爱的、所信任的人交往并不断向前看，我们就能逐渐恢复，并最终学会宽恕。
Finding peace within ourselves doesn’t mean we forget about the anger. Rather，it means we choose to release it. To learn to live and love in a place where past grievances no longer touch us deeply brings wisdom and a life where harmony resides.
获得内心的安宁并不表示已忘记曾经的伤痛，相反，它意味着我们选择去释放。学会生活，学会去爱，摆脱过去的困扰，我们就能赢得智慧，我们的生活才能充满和谐。
